Just broken a mug

[avevale_intelligencer]

It was a beautiful mug from Boscastle in Cornwall, pot-bellied with a design of bare trees on a green background. I gave it to my mum when we visited many years ago, and got it back after my dad died. I didn't use it myself, kept it for best, but I loved to look at it. If you've visited us any time in the past year or two you've probably used it. I was shifting things to clean the work top and I knocked it off its hook and it broke.

I break things all the time, because I'm so fucking clumsy, but this was worse. I seem to be holding in a good deal of undirected and inappropriate anger at the moment for some reason, and I can't shift it. And now it's cost me a beautiful thing that I'll have to go to Cornwall to replace, because the pottery doesn't trade online as far as I can tell. I wouldn't trust the post with something like this anyway.

And now all I want to do is take the rest of our huge collection of mugs out into the garden and throw them at the wall one after the other. Which would be stupid.

Today, as some of my friends are wont to say, is SO fired.

Comments

[pbristow.livejournal.com]

Do you have any cheap and easily replaceble pillows or matresses?

Take one outside, or up to the bedroom, throw yourself at it and rip it to shreds with your bare hands.

It's not easy; it may even be impossible. But you're going to have a damn good try, alright?

I'll have a soothing [HUG] waiting for you when you've finished.

[ETA: It's OK to shout and swear at it too, and/or make any ferocious animalistic snarling noises that may seem appropriate in the moment. Just warn the Countess and any nearby felines first.]

[valydiarosada.livejournal.com]

I've found that having a good shout while vacuuming can help too. The noise of the vacuum cleaner drowns the shouting, and the plus is that the house is cleaner as a result. :)

[zanda-myrande.livejournal.com]

I just broke a mug wiping a work top. Do I really want to let myself loose with a Dyson?

Vacuuming does need doing, but I think it will be safer if I calm down first. But thank you also.

[keristor.livejournal.com]

A good shout or yell or scream anywhere you don't scare the animals can help. In the car, for instance (with the windows up and the engine running -- best if one isn't actually driving). Accompanied by as much swearing as you want. "Let it all hang out" as they used to say.

A really loud concert (or on headphones) can also help. Hawkwind, say.

Hugs...

[zanda-myrande.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately, we sleep on them. All our mattresses have been due for replacement since approximately 1993. Besides, as with the mugs, I would feel silly and wasteful.

I'll just wait till it cools down and put it with all the rest. Bit of tamping down, no worries. But thank you for the suggestion.

[catsittingstill.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry about your mug; it sounds very special.

Perhaps there is a second-hand shop nearby where you could buy a few very cheap mugs to throw at the garden wall? Perhaps not for this episode, if you don't feel settled enough to go out, but perhaps to set aside for later?

I don't know how it is in England, but in the US one can usually find (small, ugly--but the point is the smash, right?) mugs for fifteen or twenty five cents in second hand stores.

If it helps you feel better it might be cheap at the price.

[dickgloucester.livejournal.com]

*hugs* The final straw, huh?

Let it out, I say, even if it's just putting your face in a pillow and screaming.

I used to kneel by my bed and hammer away at it with my fists, face in the mattress so I could scream and swear with freedom.

[aunty_marion]

Oh dear. *hugs* Yes, I know the one. Hadn't realised where it came from, though.

My mum used to save her glass & bottles for the bottle bank for such occasions, so she could take them there and hurl them into the bins with extra ferocity. Much release of tension, no harm done to anyone or anything, and a good job of recycling into the bargain!

[danceswithlife]

Instead of hurling them at a wall you may well want to hurl them at the people you posted about earlier who are trying to stop you and the Countess from having a home, a bit of food, and some petrol. But you can always do it in your imagination :-)

[earth-wizard.livejournal.com]

Yea, I sympathize with you. I just found out my bank account is overdrawn. Traced it down to a credit card company that double-charged me this month leaving me not only penniless, but with overdrafts and other bills going unpaid (one of them being my electric bill). LOL! So, as with you, I feel like attacking something, but realize it would only end up destroying something connected either to me or a loved one... Oh the power of capital to enchain us and drive us to desperation...

Oh well... hope you overcome it with a smile rather than a frown, and laugh at yourself amid all the chaos of our daily life on this most interesting of planets.

I did, and realized life will always present me with obstacles, and that it is still up to me how I either accept the challenges and go on... ergo. my heroic despair as well as laughter at my own foilbles and incongruencies.

[clothsprogs.livejournal.com]

And now all I want to do is take the rest of our huge collection of mugs out into the garden and throw them at the wall one after the other. Which would be stupid.

Sounds familiar. I often react the same way when I break things (frequently - I'm clumsly too)

I broke Tom's Portmerion "christening" mug/tankard (in a style no longer made so not even partly repaceable with a substitute of the same design). So in addition to my anger over being clumsy and breaking it in the first place, I have GUILT that it's Tom's and irreplacable both due to the attached sentimental value AND the rarity of the thing.

I broke my favourite Aristocats mug (prize for winnign the General Knowledge quiz at a Disney Convention)... I recently found another of the same mug, second-hand on e-bay in the US... cheap but worryingly breakable in not-cheap international shipping.

I've chopped the oak-leaf man mug I fell in love with and had to buy on a stroll around the shops in Gravesend with Annie when Jared was a baby in his push-chair.... This one, I found another of on e-bay in the UK, but was outbid.

So, yep, smashing the rest in a fit if fury has a certain (if utterly stupid) appeal

On the up-side. I found an Eeyore "gloomy gloomy" mug on e-bay that I've been after since I used one of the same design at a Nycon years ago.... so swings and roundabouts.

Teddy
(We still have more mugs than we actually use, even with the breakages, but I can't resist some... Apparently, I have a mug-habit)

[clothsprogs.livejournal.com]

"Erm... Why, yes! I am the sad sort of person who obsesses about someone else's mug he particularly liked and tries to hunt down one of the same design for himself, even if it takes years. Strange you should ask."

Teddy