Sucks to be right

[avevale_intelligencer]

I've never derived the slightest satisfaction from simply being right about anything. Life has been at pains to teach me that being right is nothing to get cocky about, that being wrong is nicer and more comfortable and gets you more friends. But it still keeps happening to me, no matter how hard I try.

Case in point. A kerfuffle has blown up over the weekend on an online game forum, over an out-of-game issue which according to the forum rules should really not have been aired in public. I weighed in a few times, trying to balance the drama with a little reason, and feeling all the time that there was something fishy about the way it had all come up on the forum early in the weekend, when the administrators of the forum might be counted on to be spending time with their families. When I suggested this, it was indignantly denied, and I backed down like a good boy and apologised.

The thread was closed off by one of the administrators, who had indeed been spending time with his family, and who revealed that the person with the grievance had contacted him last week, had been replied to, and had indicated his understanding that the matter was being dealt with...and had then gone on to stir up a big fuss on the forum, on the basis that it was not being dealt with.

And now I feel bad, because I didn't want to be right about this, and this ugly rhubarb has been splurged all over the forum all weekend unnecessarily, and I know good and well that nobody else is going to feel bad about it. They'll think they've been mistreated, oppressed, denied their right of free expression, because that's how they've decided they're going to feel whatever happens. And a few weeks down the line the same thing will happen again. And I want to just fling up my arms and yell "Cards! Cards! Cards! You're all just a pack of cards!" Maybe next time I will.

Thanks for listening. Or for clicking on by, if that was your choice.

Comments

[http://users.livejournal.com/la_marquise_de_/]

I am in favour of yelling 'cards' at them.
Don't feel bad. You're a decent civilised chap in an internet with too many shouty people. That's never bad, though it is stressful.

[bardling.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that. With an extra *hug*.

[themis1.livejournal.com]

Look at it this way - the responsible person is only really hurting themselves, by being so negative.

I'm working on a no-whinge week here, I seem to spend more and more time doing it the older I get, and again, the only person it's really affecting is me ... so, positive spin anybody?