It seems to me that if your positions were reversed -- if Jan were the able one and you were too ill to be 'useful' -- you would consider yourself not worthy to be a husband? Your privilege, certainly, to consider yourself however you want, but that seems to me to be rather hard on any other person in that position.
And why? Because you're a man and therefore have to be 'useful' to be loved? Why don't women also have to be 'useful' to be a wife?
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Date: 2011-04-19 11:43 am (UTC)And why? Because you're a man and therefore have to be 'useful' to be loved? Why don't women also have to be 'useful' to be a wife?