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avevale_intelligencer ([personal profile] avevale_intelligencer) wrote2011-08-04 10:11 pm

Home alone

I left her at about eight tonight, before they kicked me out. She was being brave, mostly for my benefit I think, but I know that having things done to her eyes is something she's always been scared of. She has her Daisy player and five talking books, which hopefully will get her through the night.

The op will be tomorrow morning, and I shall be able to get in to see her again at two, though she may not be awake. If all goes well I should be bringing her home Saturday.

I can't go into details about what they're doing, and I don't imagine anyone would really want me to, but the analogy the consultant used was getting chewing gum off tissue paper without tearing it.

Those of you who are so inclined may want to offer up a quick prayer to Saint Lucy, or whomever you feel might help. I don't have anyone to pray to, and quite frankly right now I wish I did.

I'm going to have something to eat and immerse myself in a Dornford Yates. I'll post again when I know what's happening.

Many on my flist are in similar situations with regard to relatives, or undergoing treatment themselves. I wish you all the best possible treatment and a swift recovery, and lots and lots of love.

Oh, and many happy returns to [livejournal.com profile] fleetfootmike!

[identity profile] callylevy.livejournal.com 2011-08-04 09:16 pm (UTC)(link)

Just a little note to say I'm thinking of the Countess right now.

[identity profile] http://users.livejournal.com/la_marquise_de_/ 2011-08-04 09:20 pm (UTC)(link)
Best wishes to J and to you.

[identity profile] melodyclark.livejournal.com 2011-08-04 09:38 pm (UTC)(link)
My best thoughts are with you guys.
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[personal profile] aunty_marion 2011-08-04 10:19 pm (UTC)(link)
I am, as always, thinking of you both.

[identity profile] the-alchemist.livejournal.com 2011-08-04 10:24 pm (UTC)(link)
*prays*

I don't have anyone to pray to, and quite frankly right now I wish I did.

God doesn't mind people praying to her even if they don't believe in her, you know!

[identity profile] little-cinnamon.livejournal.com 2011-08-04 10:33 pm (UTC)(link)

Thinking of you both.

[identity profile] djbp.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 07:34 pm (UTC)(link)
What she said, letting the distaff side get into the conversation first as usual.
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[personal profile] patoadam 2011-08-04 10:43 pm (UTC)(link)
Best wishes to Jan for successful surgery. May the chewing gum separate from the tissue paper without difficulty.

Thinking of both of you.

[identity profile] janewilliams20.livejournal.com 2011-08-04 10:53 pm (UTC)(link)
As far as I know, wishful thinking does not constitute faith, though I can completely sympathise with the concept of "I wish there was a big friendly all-powerful person on my side to Make Everything All Right".

FWIW, I've found that what is often (and misleadingly in my opinion) referred to as "spiritual healing" does work for me, and I'll be trying it in your and her direction tomorrow - though my attention may be a little split, as far too many of my remote friends seem to be having medical crises on the same day :(

[identity profile] zanda-myrande.livejournal.com 2011-08-04 11:33 pm (UTC)(link)
At the moment I'd settle for Making This One Thing No Worse Than It Has To Be. But no, I fail at faith.

Thank you for whatever attention you can send our way. It is much appreciated.

[identity profile] janewilliams20.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 06:08 am (UTC)(link)
OK, done that. As well as the sight thing,I got "directed" (hard to explain, but it's to do with natural energy flows going where they're needed) to her overall health and emotional support.

On the "faith" thing... what I find works for me isn't faith in some all-powerful being, and certainly not a being as described by other people where some of the details supplied quite obviously aren't true. What works for me is "this technique for doing things produces results". If I switch on a light switch, I have "faith" that there's a good chance a light will come on. There may of course be a "pop!" and a lot of other lights going out, but chances are on my side. If I pour water on the garden, I have faith that it'll go downhill, soak into soil available, and make plants feel better. If I do a bit of meditation, pull in energy and run it through my chakras for a bit, I know I'll feel better and more energised to face the day. If, once grounded like that, I pull in more energy, visualise a friend, and send it their way, I know there's a good chance the karma flows of the universe will help me direct it to make things better for them. It feels a lot like watching the water head for the driest bit of soil and get soaked up, come to think of it. All natural processes, with a bit of intervention from me, and I don't understand any of them, i just use them.

Had you and Jan considered any of the "alternative therapy" methods, by the way? Lots of different names and techniques, but we're all watering plants, just with different shaped wateringcans and hosepipes.

hmm, having just come up with that analogy to try to explain to you, I find myself liking it more and more - thanks!

[identity profile] keristor.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 07:51 am (UTC)(link)
I like that analogy! I don't know, with 100% certainty, that the light will come on when I operate the switch, but I behave as though it will. (I actually have less faith in gravity, I'm half convinced that it might go 'pop' and stop working sometime, but I may be unique in that patricular lack of faith.)

I like the one about watering the garden as well, that sort of 'manipulation' makes a lot of sense to me.

[identity profile] rms-butterfly.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 12:20 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs* to you both, and healing wishes to Jan. If I prayed, I would send one up for her. I don't, so you have my warm thoughts instead. *hugs* again, because it's also hard to be the one at home, waiting for news.

[identity profile] daisy-knotwise.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 01:59 am (UTC)(link)
St Anthony is the patron of lost things, and one of my mother's favorite saints. I've said a few words in his direction. Afer all, this is about lost sight, isn't it?

GHR

[identity profile] catsittingstill.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 03:26 am (UTC)(link)
Wishing her, and you, all the best.

[identity profile] filkerdave.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 04:21 am (UTC)(link)
Good thoughts for you both

[identity profile] keristor.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 05:59 am (UTC)(link)
I would be totally in screaming panic mode about things being done to my eyes, so in my book she's extremely brave. *hugs*

So are you. *hugs*

My thoughts and prayers towards both of you.

[identity profile] grey-lady.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 06:48 am (UTC)(link)
You'll both be in my thoughts and prayers.

[identity profile] lil-shepherd.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 07:54 am (UTC)(link)
My best wishes and thoughts to the Countess.

[identity profile] joecoustic.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 09:09 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs* and good thoughts and wishes to both of you.

[identity profile] the-changeling.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 09:37 am (UTC)(link)
Dornford Yates is who David is immersing himself in, at the hospital :-)

*hugs*

Ain't houses big, without your love in them...?

[identity profile] donnacat60.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 11:09 am (UTC)(link)
Prayers said and thoughts sent last night, and will be again today. Hugs to you, and love too to you both.

[identity profile] eance.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 03:11 pm (UTC)(link)
dropping in after many months ...
Love and Light to you my dear, and to your lady xxxx

[identity profile] pocketnaomi.livejournal.com 2011-08-05 10:07 pm (UTC)(link)
All my good thoughts and best wishes for an easy and effective operation and a quick and comfortable recovery for her.

And for calm and comfort for you as well.