You are actually suggesting, as far as I'm reading, that people complain about the male characters being too heroic (I also don't believe that women "roll their eyes and think about something else" -- not based on the women I know, at least.

I simply do not think that people are going to complain that their heroes are too heroic -- that's what people want in their heroes. (Heck, it's certainly not what I want in a heroic figure)