I agree with you on so much of this, though have only had the situation in relation to song writing. It also reminds me of my frustration with people who wanted to lecture that it doesn't count as a "success" or wasn't worthwhile if it didn't make money, or those who say it doesn't count if it isn't shared with others. Everyone has their own views of success and everyone is writing/creating for a different reasons and is seeking different levels of exposure.