This. I found the same thing with swearing. I got known as "Chris doesn't swear", because I don't usually in public (and especially not at work). So when at work I came out with something mild like 'bloody' everyone was shocked and went like "Oh no, he must be really mad!" (and in fact I wasn't noticably more angry than usual). Whereas others who use the f-word every other paragraph aren't noticed.
That's one of the problems with "bottling it up". A related one is that when (not if) the bottle does burst, or at least the cork comes out, the pressure is likely to be a lot higher than if it's vented more regularly. I now tend to vent in the car, I'll come out with a string of FFFSCFFF or whatever, and sometimes scream, where no one else can hear me, just to let it out (and in fact I stay in control physically, no one from outside would notice any difference in my driving because that's on a different level).
Doing it by yourself also avoids feedback. Yelling at another person can escalate to where actual damage is done. My mother used to go out and pull beetroot and wring them (you have to twist the neck of the plant to stop it 'bleeding'), giving them the names of the people who had annoyed her. After half an hour or so she'd be calm again (and have some fresh beetroot for dinner, double win!). As a kid I used to go and chop firewood, same sort of effect.
And as someone else said, if all that happens is some raised voices (or the net equivalent, in ALL CAPS) and some hurt feelings, that's lucky. Some people end up in hospital...
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That's one of the problems with "bottling it up". A related one is that when (not if) the bottle does burst, or at least the cork comes out, the pressure is likely to be a lot higher than if it's vented more regularly. I now tend to vent in the car, I'll come out with a string of FFFSCFFF or whatever, and sometimes scream, where no one else can hear me, just to let it out (and in fact I stay in control physically, no one from outside would notice any difference in my driving because that's on a different level).
Doing it by yourself also avoids feedback. Yelling at another person can escalate to where actual damage is done. My mother used to go out and pull beetroot and wring them (you have to twist the neck of the plant to stop it 'bleeding'), giving them the names of the people who had annoyed her. After half an hour or so she'd be calm again (and have some fresh beetroot for dinner, double win!). As a kid I used to go and chop firewood, same sort of effect.
And as someone else said, if all that happens is some raised voices (or the net equivalent, in ALL CAPS) and some hurt feelings, that's lucky. Some people end up in hospital...