Personally, yes I would, but only with reference to me. Other people can and should decide for themselves. I just don't understand the rationale of a man who, having wooed and won the woman of his dreams, doesn't constantly measure himself by how much he does to make her life better and happier. But then I don't have to. That's their affair.
Likewise with women. I'm not one, so I couldn't say. The Countess has compelling reasons for not being as "useful" around the house as she would wish to be, and pushes her limits even then to a degree that sometimes worries me. But--and I may just be a little biased here--she is so much more than useful in other respects that I would cherish and love and serve her if she did nothing at all but write and paint (which I wish she would do a little more of).
It's been my observation, though, and I'm aware I'm skating on thin ice here, that many of the married women I have known hold themselves to that standard anyway. It goes without saying, for them, that they should be useful. With men, again on the basis of my observation, that's not necessarily the case, though I've also known some honourable exceptions.
It's also the case that some men feel--whether with or without justification I couldn't say--that since they go out to work and earn the bread they're excused any other domestic responsibilities. I just know that my dad didn't feel that way (though his Saturday afternoon with Grandstand was sacrosanct), and neither did I when I was in work.
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Likewise with women. I'm not one, so I couldn't say. The Countess has compelling reasons for not being as "useful" around the house as she would wish to be, and pushes her limits even then to a degree that sometimes worries me. But--and I may just be a little biased here--she is so much more than useful in other respects that I would cherish and love and serve her if she did nothing at all but write and paint (which I wish she would do a little more of).
It's been my observation, though, and I'm aware I'm skating on thin ice here, that many of the married women I have known hold themselves to that standard anyway. It goes without saying, for them, that they should be useful. With men, again on the basis of my observation, that's not necessarily the case, though I've also known some honourable exceptions.
It's also the case that some men feel--whether with or without justification I couldn't say--that since they go out to work and earn the bread they're excused any other domestic responsibilities. I just know that my dad didn't feel that way (though his Saturday afternoon with Grandstand was sacrosanct), and neither did I when I was in work.