So--a bureaucrat insists a scientist abandon a family member to people who will torture him to death.

Didn't actually say that. In my story it was God's idea, and a pretty desperate one at that.

God Is Not Really In Charge

Or that. God is in charge of our world, and accountable for everything he does. He just doesn't have control in his world.

words like evil and cruel can't apply to God

Or that. I pointed out that you were using them rather a lot.

I'll try and restate my position again in a little while, in the hope I can somehow make it clearer.