Well, maybe what seems to me to be a qualitative difference is my perception of a personal preference. And maybe that perception is also conditioned by the fact that women haven't been doing horrible things to men and telling them it was their fault for the last several millennia. Any gender whose members can regard that state of affairs as not only normal but desirable has something missing in my view.

But, you're right...one judges individuals as individuals. It's the only way.