I do understand everything you're saying. It just goes against my grain, philosophically, for the same reason I get honked off at preachers who say someone -- gays, pro-choice folks, whomever -- is going to Hell. They may have a copy of what they consider to be the rule book, and they may be authorized (at least in their own minds) to interpret it for the public... but, by their own definition of the club, ultimately it's not their decision.