I think that asking for clarification is not "jumping up and down on the tiny shining thing." And when you bring ideas out for discussion, they are going to get discussed, and not all the commenters will agree with you (or each other for that matter). And you are among friends. Friends of varying opinions and experiences.

And I do agree that the two sentences you state above are different. But if there is one thing I have learned over the years in fandom (and I have been in fandom since the first Star Trek convention), it is that there will be spirited discussion of any topic that is brought up. In general, I think this is a good thing, even when people disagree with me, or misunderstand what I say, so long as they do so civilly. And nothing I have seen in the comments leads me to believe that folks are being uncivil to you.

I am sorry that you feel offended or hurt that people have done either, even though I cannot find any place in the comments where you -- as opposed to your idea -- were raked over the coals.

That said, it was -- and is -- an interesting discussion, and one that I am enjoying.